Are you avoiding problems in your life? Often it is because you don’t want to take responsibility for the issue.
Sometimes we find ourselves avoiding problems because it makes us feel more comfortable. It is the easier option.
Why Do We Spend Time Avoiding Problems?
You might like to tell yourself little white lies to help you with the struggles of your daily discomfort. Things like ‘I won’t be doing it for much longer so it doesn’t really matter’. Individually, little lies don’t do you much harm. But over time, as you continue to ignore blatant problems in your life, it’ll start to take its toll on you.
So many of us turn a blind eye to what’s wrong in our life out of a fear of having to change things. We worry we will upset the rhythm that we’ve already got going. Even if it isn’t perfect. But eventually, this kind of mindset will lead to our downfall.
Many of us struggle to deal with disappointment, and when it is something major in our life we are even worse.
Avoiding Problems Starts Out Small
These lies often start out innocently enough. We use them as a way to help raise our spirits in a rough patch. For example, you might be saying that everyone hates going to work. You allow yourself to think this as it is easier than accepting the fact that you’re not in the right place for you.
Many people love going to work. They have an interesting field, good coworkers, and a kind boss. For a while, you could ignore that you don’t have all, or any, or these things in your job. Just for the sake of getting by in a short term job you don’t like.
This avoiding problems is know as avoidance coping and this itself can be creating stress.
Lying to Yourself
Over time, if you are not careful, that short term job starts to become your career. This is where you need to watch out as you don’t want to get trapped in a place like that where you’re not happy.
You can also find these kinds of self-told lies in other areas of your life, such as relationships.
Many people stay in toxic or unhealthy relationships, passing it off as not being “that bad” compared to other greatly abusive ones. Really, they’re just scared of changing things up and having to be single again. But we all need to be able to ditch a relationship that’s not working out.
You don’t need to change your life totally in one giant step. Think of some small things you can change for the better in your life. Writing down things that you perceive as problems in your life is a great way to start.
Don’t Regret Your Life Decisions Later
Staying in situations like this will only lead to you regretting your life decisions later on down the road. You can’t lie to yourself about the status of your life. It’s like a bandage. It’s a short term solution to what may very well be a long term problem that festers and grows.
Allowing yourself to continuously be content with an unenjoyable or unfulfilling lifestyle can be gruelling. At some point, it becomes difficult to even want to go about your day. Because of how much you subconsciously detest it.
Take a genuine accounting of your life. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t just gloss over it. Make a point to recognise that you’re struggling with that particular thing. Only then can you make any real effort to fix it.